Marriage- What &
Why
Disclaimer: I am not a professional counsellor when it
comes to marriage or even love relationships so kindly skip this article if you
are expecting some basic knowledge of human psychology coated in oxford words
as laid out there are bestselling authors.
So, I am 28 years old right now and truly this is the age by
which a man/woman (unmarried) should be aware ‘What I am?’ and ‘What
I want in my partner?’ (If you are already married then too kindly read
ahead!)
Firstly, what prompted me a ‘bachelor’ to write on such a
topic…..Marriage? No, I am not getting married any time soon in coming future.
I have been talking to colleagues and observing some newly wedded couples
(friends) to see if love is for real? And most importantly does the ingredient
of love is able to maintain its taste even after feast of marriage? Read ahead
& see for yourself if you can find yourself answers.
To say that Love is blind & dumb-deaf is no less than
compromising on your long run happiness. I don’t say that Love/marriage should
be treated like a game on poker table but Hey it is your life so I say it is no
sin to be well aware of your needs- physical, mental and mainly emotional. Only
when you are aware of your own appetite/condition, you will be able to
understand other’s perception and needs. Who earns what is a different matter
to be taken into consideration, to be taken into account only after matching of
expectations and desires! At this present time when you are full of anxiety to
get comments on our honeymoon photos and to be tagged in hastag ‘couplegoals’
post, remember this is not a part of whole meal.
If a man is over ambitious and has put money at forefront as
sole objective of life, such man shall not be married to a woman/man who are
looking for a partner to share their day with. Having said that, it is not at
all wrong to be money ambitious as Money is another important factor to be
considered while getting into a relationship. Let the other person express his
personal desires while the talks of marriage are on, with judgment. It is so
better to decide on the fare rather then fighting over the same once the
journey is mid way.
And Hey how often it is that we truly express our self in
front of others? A very few times! I laugh over the fact that we hesitate to
express the most beautiful and simplest emotion of all- LOVE. What are we so
afraid of? Is it of sheer rejection or the after laugh? Well because I have
already advised steps in my previous article, I won’t dwell further on this
topic in this article.
There are moments in every relationship, especially in a highly
decorated marriage where the two people run from each other under the same
roof. It is very important for both the partners to timely acknowledge the same
and work upon it before it gets to late. Well so, I have known this Gay couple
since last two years as one of the guys is my friend from college. As a taboo,
we refuse to acknowledge the very existence of Gay love, let alone accept them
becoming parents. So, the matter here over which their fight pro-longed and a
group of us who have been supportive of their love had to interfere was- child
adoption. Now this part is very important for those of you who are already
married. We as a group sat with this couple for atleast a week after our office
hours or sometimes over conference calls. We asked them to remember and embrace
their journey since the time they first met in office till the time when they
finally got to tie the knot. After a while when they were proud of their
journey, we asked them is child adoption really an issue over which they are
ready to put everything on stake? Both of them nodded in negative! Finally,
after a few more self-evaluation sessions, they kissed and world became a
little better place. And yeah to end their part on a better note they are
considering adopting a puppy for starters only to be sure they are able to
handle a human child with full care and fulfil needs.
Every moment, I say ‘every’ moment that you are
spending with your partner/family member shall be considered as a blessing by
the almighty. Because remember not all the blessed to get their share of love
in total! Lucky are few who get to marry the love chosen by them!
*Goes into 15 minutes of inner evaluation*
Am I aware of my own self and do I know what am I looking
for in my future partner?
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